Calm Down And Stop Trying To Make The Holidays So Magical

Calm Down And Stop Trying To Make The Holidays So Magical - rubythemag.com
Have yourself a merry – and mindful – holiday season with this advice from three of our favorite experts on minimalism.
Katie Lee, author and daily life coach
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WHY SHE THINKS WOMEN FEEL HOLIDAY PRESSURE

As we grew up and found out our moms, aunts and grandmas did all of the shopping, cooking, decorating and coordinating, it became apparent that if the magic of the season is going to continue, it would now fall on our shoulders.

Whether it was a conscious choice or an automatic passing of the baton, we inherited generations of pressure to make it all happen and make it magical. Start challenging the traditions and expectations that have been put upon you over the years. Many of them are ridiculous, antiquated and no one even likes them anymore, but we keep doing them. Choose one thing (or just a part of it) to stop doing or skip this year.

HER REASON FOR THE SEASON

The holiday season for me means one word: JOY. An authentic holiday season looks like doing things that bring joy into my life and put a smile on my face. If any to-do or activity doesn’t fulfill that requirement, then odds are that it’s a passed-down expectation that I need to reevaluate. By the way, each year my definition of what brings me joy changes. So every year I tune into the alignment of how I’m doing my holidays.

HOW SHE’S SLOWING DOWN

Mostly I’ve simplified every aspect from baking, to events, to shopping and wrapping gifts. Not going overboard has given me back so much time and reduced my stress by a lot. Over the next few weeks I will be taking it easy when it comes to my to-do list as we enter the darkest time of the year. I’m enjoying movies with a cozy blanket by the light of the tree since it gets dark at 4:30 p.m. where I live. Setting the intention to enjoy myself goes a long way for me.

THIS YEAR, SHE’S SAYING NO TO…

We gave up baking extra desserts, bringing little gifts and bringing beer or wine to celebrations. Last year we ran all of these errands, spent hours in the kitchen and stressed out over every little detail only to realize that no one ever noticed that we added another bottle of wine to the pile or batch of cookies to the dozens already there. And most of our friends don’t want more stuff anyway so cutting back on small gifts is a win-win. The holidays are overdone and excessive in a lot of ways so cutting back on our end won’t leave a noticeable hole in the holiday.

Brandie Gilliam, creator of Thoughtfully Magazine
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ON STAYING CENTERED AND FOCUSED

To me, the heart of the holiday season means love and family. I express this through thoughtful giving…holiday decorations that make me feel warm and happy inside, spending time with my loved ones, and nourishing seasonal food and offering plenty of gratitude to go around. Gratitude reminds me that what I have is enough so that anything additional that comes into my life is that much sweeter and more enjoyable.

FILLING UP ON THE GOOD STUFF

I’m all about the principles of less is more and quality over quantity. I prioritize the season, and life in general, by making space for the things and people that fill me up. I’ll be spending the next few weeks wrapping up our three-year anniversary issue (as we gear up for press and the release of it later next month), watching Hallmark Christmas movies and listening to my favorite Christmas songs, going to church, baking for my family and taking moments throughout my day to laugh, dance and smile to myself more. My number one intention is to be more present and live more intuitively – thoughtfully.

THIS YEAR, SHE’S SAYING NO TO…

One thing I gave up some years ago was getting out of the cycle of acquiring stuff for stuff’s sake and being led by people-pleasing tendencies. I no longer have long lists of endless wants but rather, long lists of the things I already have that I’m grateful for and love. I’m much more intentional now and only bring or request items into my home that I truly want to be there.

Felena Hanson, founder of Hera Hub
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KEEPING THINGS SIMPLE

I never go to the mall and I run with my dogs every day to remain balanced. I also visit my family about halfway between Thanksgiving and Christmas. This allows me to “cover my bases” and not fight the rest of the world to get somewhere on a particular day. Plus, I’m the bearer of the first gift received by my nine nieces and nephews!

THIS YEAR, SHE’S SAYING NO TO…

The holidays are a great time to reflect and focus our attention away from the hustle and towards close friends and family. I routinely turn down gatherings in December. I don’t explain, I simply say, “Unfortunately I’m not available to make it.” I lost the “people pleaser” mentality years ago. We are never going to make everyone happy and we have to be OK with that.


Katarina Kovacevic is founder and editor of RUBY. Follow her on Twitter @Little_K and Instagram @Little_K_Kata.

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