Editor’s Note: How I Spend My Alone Time
I’m definitely the outgoing type, but people are often shocked when I tell them that I’m an introvert. The truth is, being in a social setting for extended periods of time completely drains me.
I need alone time in order to rest and recharge. It keeps me happy, and it makes me a better businesswoman, mom and wife. There’s also nothing particularly glamorous about the way I spend this time. Sure, I’d love to say that I escape for a weekend of pampering, but typically you’ll find me…
I feel no shame in admitting that one of my favorite ways to spend time alone is by vegging out on the couch. If I’m feeling particularly inspired, I’ll watch something classy like The Crown or maybe a good Netflix documentary. But often I find myself zoning out in front of a favorite reality show – Keeping Up with the Kardashians or The Real Housewives series (NYC and New Jersey all the way). In this season of my life, it feels completely indulgent.
Eating Taco Bell In My Car (While Listening To A Podcast)
This is a longtime favorite of mine. When I’m feeling particularly drained, I’ll hit up the Taco Bell drive thru and park my car in a quiet corner of the lot. Before podcasts, I’d listen to my local NPR station. Now I tune into some of my favorite podcasts like The Type A Creative, How I Built This or The Storytellers Project. There is nothing more satisfying than a few minutes of complete and crunchy solitude with my Mexican pizza (no meat, just beans). Seriously, try it.
Occasionally I’ll go on a hike with my husband or a friend and that feels like a great way to connect, but my fitness routine tends to be a solo one. I go bike riding or walking around my neighborhood. Once a week, I attend a fitness class at a small local gym. It’s group interval training, so even though I’m surrounded by other people, we’re all going at our own pace. (And yes, I do socialize – sometimes.)
It took me years to realize that I hated coordinated group classes where we’re all doing the same thing in the middle of the room. There is literally nothing more aggravating than having an instructor trying to “motivate” me. Just let me be! Similar to my TV habits, working out tends to be a helpful way for me to get out of my own head and clear headspace when I’m feeling overwhelmed. My best ideas come when I’m walking, riding my bike, or driving home from the gym.
Taking Myself Out For A Date
I love going to the movies by myself and I love going out to eat on my own (in a restaurant, not always my car). I savor every bite and every moment…and talk to no one. (I told you – total introvert.)
Cooking A Good Meal
It’s not often that I get to really spend time casually cooking dinner these days, but when I do get the chance, I pour myself a big glass of wine, turn on some good music and slowly chop, slice and dice. It’s therapeutic, particularly when I’m home alone and the rest of the house is quiet.
That’s it. Now you probably know more about me than you ever wanted to.
How about you? I’d love to know – how do you like to spend your alone time? Tell me by leaving a comment below!
And before you go, make sure to check out our cover story on Personal Intimacy: Being Good With Being Alone.
We’ve also got some other really great reads this month, including:
Arianna Huffington Has Advice For The New Year: Unplug (I’m so excited about this one!)